What is not good in 'love'?

I was listening to the radio on my way to buy some grocery, after the roadshow today. I did not actually listen to the whole conversation started by the DJ, however, his question posted above as my title grabbed my attention. So, "What is not good in love", I asked myself...

Perhaps, in the initial stages of love, everything seems alright, and that you can make do and live with anything that comes your away. As the feeling starts to 'normalise', you start thinking, "Why did I put up with these behavious?".

I guess, for me, things that are not good while you are in love are (thinking out loud):

• The craving for 'constant' or almost need for attention all the time. The need to be the centre of someone's universe, and to feel as if you are important. This often gives the 'person' wrong impressions that THEY are IMPORTANT, whereas they are as important to others as they treat others. As the saying goes, what goes round, comes round - the promise of life!

• Blindness towards your partners imperfections. Though this may be cute and endearing at the beginning, but its always the little things that really bugs you. However, when you voice out your concerns regarding little annoying habits earlier on the realtionship, 'love' gets in the way and tells you, 'its ok. let him be!"

• Their opinions. I guess, some do sort out the rotten apples before they commit to a relationship. However, some apples do not appear rotten till you get to the inner most core. And sometimes, when that happens, you wonder, "What will happen to me now? Swallow or spit?" (NO PUNS INTENDED!)

• Financial stability. When you are in love, and have no one to support but yourself, you are content with less. However, you tend to complain and see inadequacies with personal or joint funds with the bun in the oven.

• Getting to know the family. It is really awkward for me to know someone, more so getting to know your prospective 'family members' when it is essential to be on good terms with everyone. It is quite stressful - i imagine! This can sometimes lead to 'fake-ness' that may disappoint not just yourself but other parties as well.
  

Different people really do react differently to others and the qualities they are looking for in potential 'love' partners varies, making us different. What is NOT GOOD for me, perhaps may be tolerable to others, or perhaps "WHAT IS SHE TALKING ABOUT?" to another. Its all about perception and personal preference. After all, what makes love good is essentially communication between partners....

Important trait(s)

My youngest sister gave me a call as I was having my early dinner at a diner, and I was too lazy to cook reason being having no supply of what ever (fresh food - which reminds me, I need to clean the fridge) in my kitchen at my uncle's. As we were chatting about, one topic jumped at me as it was different and interesting.

She asked if i could name one important trait that her 'future' or 'possible' boyfriend should have. I told her to give me time while we continue to chat. I finally resolved to 'him' having good sense of humour. Apparently, others (immediate family members) think the same. What can i say, brilliant minds think the same :)

As this topic came up, I remembered my earlier entry a couple months ago, where I spoke of what I wanted in my 'man', dedicated to meddling family members. Its safe enough to say, I stick by what I thought I wanted and needed. Though the list may sound like impossible, and others may read in aghast, but.... *wink* someone out there fits :)

Youth and me

Recently, I participated in the first Brunei's Youth Congress. I feel it went rather well (the discussion bit), though it ended with a bit in an anti-climax feeling for me. There were many there, though the quality of participation is something else entirely! But, I have to give credit when its due, and for the first time, it is quite okay. Perhaps relevant agencies will learn from their first experience to make future congress better and more interactive and relevant with good if not better facilitators.

I was lucky, in a way that i was selected to speak on a topic where i had some ideas. others were not so lucky where they had to discuss a topic new and foreign to them, such as youth and employment. Only if you are of a certain age and maturity would you tend to think in that direction. Otherwise, its something younger youths dismiss and leave for relevant and older authorities to plan, and resolve!

Being around other youths and thinking of one particular topic for a few days is NOT ENOUGH to come to a conclusion of what is needed by the youths and the country. In fact, I believe the few days we had to discuss the topics were really limited and just the tip of an iceberg of what we can really think and achieve from... there are so many things to learn... so many things to absorb and many other things to learn to comprehend.

I throughly enjoyed my day in the limelight and exercise in public speaking. It was fun and exhilarating. I recieved many nice compliments and i will treasure them always :)

Perhaps, working in an environment where I can use that talent would be great. Do you see me as a public speaker? motivator? or teaching public speaking?

On second thoughts, I should really LEARN how to do it better before TEACHING others of ONLY what i think is best! :P heheheheh... even if experience is a poweful tool, knowledge is very useful ;)