single-dom!

I attended this free course organized by the mental health unit of RIPAS – its main topic is Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD). And the invited speaker is Dr. Aili from Malaysia whom also happens to be an associate professor in one of the leading Universities in Malaysia…

Anyways… We were about to talk about children and families with ADHD when the opening speech given by the head of the organizing team asked the public to show hands – singles, raise your hands. I didn’t of course, thinking they would want us singles to do something the married ones refused to do… HOW TYPICAL! And I wasn’t surprised when a lot of us didn’t raise hands… anyways… He said… “for those of you who are single, don’t get married. And to those, whom have made the mistake of marrying, don’t have kids!”

A lot of us laughed… but I kept thinking on the above statement… Truths are every where… and some truth is present in this vague sentence.

A lot of us get married because we are “IN LOVE”, and as result of that, we bear children – but MOST of us are unprepared financially, mentally, socially, physically, emotionally to have kids, but it doesn’t stop us! BUT married people often give a lot of thought about what car to buy, or where to build their personal haven but not kids. To them, having kids is just NORMAL PROGRESSION, a milestone to achieve… And yet, the singlesss think of the above more, and probably made the right move for themselves by not getting married or having kids because they know they may be unable to provide wholly to the child..

Yet, it is always the singlesss that get attacked! Like they are immature enough for an adult relationship, or unable to keep or find a partner and more… its time we look at the mentality of the married ones… are they mature enough to BE married and LEGAL in the full sense to have and raise KIDS?