The mak andams (look for what it means in one of the weddings entry in February 2005) are busy collecting some food from the gangsa (the high copper tray covered with the intrisic golden yellow cloth, trimed with lace!) for the newly weds to feed each other in a ceremony i think i heard them called, "bersuap-suap". That means, feeding each other... I have yet to learn about this... Maybe not all MALAYS do this??? Hmmm.... I'll investigate more :P